Substance Over Form

     There is nothing wrong with wanting to look our best.  Whether we are striving to create a self, a relationship, or a life, we need to have some solid ideas about what we want that to look like.
     Form gives us a place to begin.  But for many of us, form has been a substitute for substance.  We may have focused on form to compensate for feeling afraid of feeling inferior.  We may have focused on form because we didn't know ow to focus on substance.
     Form is the outline; substance is what fills it in.  We fill in the outline of ourselves by being authentic; we fill in the outline of our life by showing up for life and participating to the best of our ability.
    Now...we're learning to pay attention to how things work and feel, not just what they look like.

Today, I will focus on substance in my life.  I will fill in the lines of myself with a real person -- me.  I will concentrate on the substance of my relationships, rather than what they look like.  I will focus on the real workings of my life, not just the trappings.